Cheating on Facebook, how to survive
Thirty-year-old Jeevan (pseudonym), working in a private company, has been on Facebook for the past seven years. He is very active with family, friends and colleagues. About a year ago, he started talking with a new friend. Facebook profile shows they have some mutual friends. After Hi-Halo, 22-year-old expatriate Reena (pseudonym) becomes friends. They depend on each other. Advise each other on various matters. Reena doesn't have many pictures on her profile. He said, he does not like to make the picture public. In their personal talks, they also talk about office life. After a year, Jeevan comes to know through one of her colleagues that Reena actually has the account of a male colleague of her office. Shocked Jeevan left the job. He spent three months in depression. After that, with the help of a psychiatrist, he started to return to normal life again.
This kind of friendship is often heard in disguise on Facebook. In most cases, these accounts are made using images of women using the identities of 'expatriates', 'celebrities'. These accounts are arranged so as not to raise suspicions.
There is no survey of how many such people are victims of emotional fraud like this in life. But patients often present to psychiatrists with many such problems.
Why be deceived?
Experts say that people are being cheated because they do not know how to use social media. Through social media, people share good pictures, a little messy pictures. There is no chance to come to any conclusion with that. You have to learn how much to share with someone you don't know at all. Looking at colorful pictures of other people's lives may not always be the right way to understand that person's lifestyle. If looking at someone's external life and establishing a relationship with him from a place of special desire, then there is a need for caution. How much you use social media or not is up to you.
Psychiatrist Tajul Islam believes that logic does not work when people establish relationships in any fragile situation. As a result, those who are mentally unstable and friendless are the victims of such fraud through social media. Then they don't check when making decisions and become more fragile when they get it wrong later on.
Facebook is such a medium to understand how?
Not everyone is an expert on who to interact with on Facebook. But those who work in the cyber world suggest using some common sense. Tanveer Hasan Joha said, it is possible to understand whether there is any opacity in the person's activity on Facebook only by observing it for a few days. You talk to someone day after day via text. If the relationship is long, give her a voice call before having a personal conversation. People can understand many things by listening to voices. And if he is male and not female then you can never add him to voice call. Unless he is a real criminal and calls a woman. As a result there is no option to confirm one's own warning. A little follow of his posts gives an insight into his daily life. If you have common friends, you can also talk to them. We come across many cases of cheating people by misrepresenting themselves in the inbox. In all of them no one was seen taking the least precautions. Even the common boy next door is much safer than the online socalled PhD scholar.
